1. The concept that a marriage will never be harmonious, therefore you only have one of three options:
A. Put yourself to sleep- Ignore the chaotic and lower self behavior displayed by your spouse and choose not to see it.
B. A to B relationship-Actually fighting and going back and forth. This includes actual fighting and breaking things, emotional blackmail, long heated arguments, cheating and infidelity, separation and divorce.
C. Tic-Tac-Toe-Not actually fighting, but “nit-picking” just about everything that one partner says. It becomes an unconscious game of tic tac toe, which gridlocks the relationship. This will eventually lead to the A to B relationship.
There is a forth possibility, which is called “Congruence”, where the two in the relationship actually work together as a team, and occasionally can finish each other’s thoughts. However this requires a spouse who has “good pipes”. If the relationship finds itself in one or more of the three above situations, then there is a good chance that one of them have “fucked up pipes”. GodSpeedScience™